Inadequate foundation – SJBMCPRS Diagnoses

Disclaimer: The following post on the SJBMCPRS Report is not to be taken overly seriously, and is purposely expressive with an intent to imply the author’s perspective (which people are free to view if they choose to). However, the contents of this post will contain some real-world properties and questionable language, which along with the entirety of this post may be taken as offensive to people.

“If you don't have solid beliefs, you cannot build a stable life. Beliefs are like the foundation of a building, and they are the foundation to build your life upon.” - Alfred Armand Montapert

Punch a pillow if you’ve heard this about me before, but I am never short of being critical or having disdainful and stinging opinions of myself. I don't attempt to hide it either because lying in order to make myself into something I'm not makes situations worse, whether you are able to foresee an oncoming situation or not. In the end of the day, I am inadequate, and honestly, I'm okay with that.

Now it could be due to having a cold while writing/typing up this post that has deprived me of much needed sleep, worry of potentially spreading the cold to others, and caused consistent irritations to make me particularly focused on loathing myself and ‘recycle’ previous perceptions mentioned in prior posts, but the reality is that self-devaluation causes problems; and not just in the fact that I repeat myself so much with my own thoughts, and mannerisms to which I define myself. I’ve condemned myself so many times that, as the saying implies; ‘sounding like a broken record’, the vinyl in the record player has developed holes the size of potholes found on roads, through the consistent and repeated replaying, and the player itself has become tone deaf and bitter. In other words; I have become wearisome of my clichés as it were, and have developed an almost natural eye-rolling and scoffing reaction whenever I process this mentality. But again, I’m okay with that.

Putting aside how dismaying and frustrating it is (for me and people significant to me) to hear the same eye-rolling disdain I have for myself; problems arise in regards to instances in the present, and creates woeful foundations for upcoming events in the future. For instance; while I am content with feeling inadequate and worthless, I do not outweigh the 'costs' of me existing. You see for me to be me and to live means I require a space to call home, food and drink, as well as access to energy sources like water and electricity and so on, all of which aren't infinite and cost money. At the moment, I do not have a job which means I live on benefits (or whatever is the ‘proper’ term to use to define the process and system enabling people who can’t work and obtain money), which comes from the endeavours of hard working people. In short, the endeavours of people in order for me to live a worthless life of inadequacy is not fair, and a consistent waste of resources that could be put into better use. This means I am a terrible burden who cannot bring value that outweighs the costs and disadvantages. ...And I’m not okay with that.

(Record abruptly stopping sound) …Before going further into my explanation of my perception, I need to express that while I see myself as a leeching parasite undeservingly getting by through benefits/contributions because of my mental state and inability to settle in a quote; ‘everyday life’, that DOES NOT mean that people who also get support are also ‘undeserving leeching parasites’. DO NOT take my own self-evaluations as definitive ‘labels’ for everyone who very much need the help and support in order to live comfortable and progressive lives.   

With this perception serving as an abysmal foundation for my life in the present, it creates problems for life in the future. Due to me being who I am and the way I am; I naturally feel shut-off, inferior, and incapable of evolving into someone that can be relied upon for happenstances that may occur in later life. ...Not to say I don’t attempt things I feel I cannot manage effectively, and that I don’t have aspirations. Currently I am progressing beyond my psychological parameters, and I secretly hope that I continue to overcome my own cynicism little by little. However; I always sense that this grace period as it were will not last, and the momentum I have for the time being will only intensify the devastation for when the ‘good times’ screech to a halt and I plummet downwards like an asteroid the size of Texas into the Earth without a means to lessen the disaster. Plus, I know anything I can do regardless if it is an ambitious task I somehow achieve, or not, can be done better by someone else. Having me form the foundation or base for something (presumably grand, or ongoing) will not provide the stability required for future life developments.

To attempt a mental definition that someone could visualise and (hopefully) understand; picture a line of quality assured bed mattresses, and among the line of mattresses is an air/inflatable bed that one would expect to see either floating on the sea or pool with someone on top, or in an outdoor activity shop/establishment. As someone who wants/needs a viable surface to sleep, rest upon, or sit on in this hypothetical scenario; you would generally favour a quality made bed mattress because its practical, versatile, ready to use, comfortable, and likely to last a long time, thus fulfilling psychological requirements. The air/inflatable bed on the other hand may be much cheaper, but then as consequences; the air/inflatable bed won’t be as comfortable, will require frequent inflating due to deflation, and if something like a set of keys or other personal belongings pierces/punctures the air/inflatable bed, then the product becomes unusable.

With this hypothetical demonstration in mind; I am the equivalent to the air/inflatable bed, and everyone else are the equivalents to the quality assured mattresses. I say this because I know I am prone to letting people and myself down, similar to an air/inflatable bed deflating on a frequent basis, and if I have unintentionally done irreversible physical or (more likely) mental harm to someone significant to me then the trust and connection with that person is tarnished and un-repairable much like a punctured or torn air/inflatable bed. While I would try my best to fit the purpose required, I will not be able to measure up to the superior qualities other people bring into the equation. I consider myself the inferior option and person just like how the air/inflatable bed is inferior to the quality assured mattresses, because people with driven motivation, social skills, who are healthier, financially secure, has preferable experiences and a sense of self-worth will naturally aspire to do way more than I ever will, and be more dependable in a variety of happenstances that may occur later on in life. Thus; if you were after an appealing and secure foundation to build upon, you would be in better hands with people who take their opportunities in life and make gold, similarly to how you would choose a quality assured mattress that has more beneficial qualities in contrast to the inferior qualities of the air/inflatable bed.              

In an attempt to prevent readers from mistaking people as beds or having nightmares of mattress people, I offer an alternative example that you may enable you to interpret the main message of this post in which a building architect wouldn't in the right mind create a multi-story building on inadequate principals because it would be unsafe and hazardous for people to exhibit. Not only is such a practice a violation of building standards, and dissolute, but it could lead to a catastrophic failure in terms of loss of life and criminal charges. In short; it is a REALLY BAD idea to construct a building on woeful foundations. That makes sense, right?

Sadly, that has become apparent in the real world such as the Lian Yak Building/Hotel New World collapse on the 15th of March 1986, which was fundamentally caused by error in the building’s construction (the building's dead load (the weight of the building itself) was completely omitted from the calculation for the building’s structural load, meaning that the building constructed, could not support its own weight). What’s more depressing is that this was not an isolated incident; as there have been many instances where disaster was in due part because of ineffective or improper foundations.

With that said; it’s no intention of mine to marginalise the effects of real life disasters to elaborate on one’s own discontent and woes about establishing one’s own life. Though if one (1) were able to demonstrate how problematic inadequate foundations could be in a person’s life, then this perception could be used to illustrate the flaws in numerous examples. Now I may break a few hearts by saying this, ...and give people reason to rally together with flame torches and pitchforks with the intention to strike me down, but I cannot stand television shows like Jerry Springer or Jeremy Kyle because it constantly demonstrates the worst in people. Yes, there are exceptions such as when parents openly grieve and need help to adapt after the loss of a child, I won’t doubt that, but (and this is my own perception) for the most part; these programs exemplify how immature and irrational people can become, and demonstrates how not even public shaming can rectify a situation which was flawed from the beginning. Take this as a hypothetical scenario which will unquestionably apply to a real-life situation as seen on these type of TV shows:

On today’s episode of ‘Personal F***ups!’: person A is in a tattered relationship with person B, who is allegedly in another relationship with person C. Person A and person B have a child together, but person B does not take responsibility as a parent and instead sleeps with person C, according to a disgruntled person A. What’s more person C is a good friend of person A. Lie-detector results will reveal if person B is indeed cheating on person A, or not.

Now anyone familiar with Jerry Springer, or Jeremy Kyle or programs similar to these will no doubt be able to attest on seeing this hypothetical example unfolding on screen in real-life, and have seen how these instances play out, and what the outcome/fallout is. Supposedly if in this example person B says he/she is not sleeping with person C and is found to be lying according to the results of a test, then the problematic situation intensifies, usually with an audience shaming the liar, ...and then several raised voices, swearing, and possibly even physical attacking etc. Regardless of whether one (1) can argue the legitimacy of the lie-detector test, the fact that such a scenario can and has occurred in reality means that there are faults in the foundation of persons A, B, and C. Whether it was simply a one (1) night stand occurrence that led to the birth of a child between person A and B, or a combination of factors; ultimately the fault falls on both individuals in the form of lapses of judgement and trust. Person B through his/her deception demonstrates how deceiving and inappropriate he/she is as a responsible adult and parent. Person A’s misplace of trust in person B demonstrates, naivety the flaws in judgement, along with the combined lack of cohesion between person A and person B when the child was born (in other words their lack of ability to come together as parents). Whereas the flaws in person C is the lack of morality through the acts of selfishness by sleeping with person B whilst lying to person A. Factor all these elements and what you have is a trio of hypothetical, yet sadly realistic people with relationships created on rotten foundations, which do not serve as ideal platforms for the lives they have in the future.

Assuming these examples given throughout this post are accepted within the provided context, and aren’t pulled apart by ‘what if’ scenarios, the basis of the perception on inadequate foundations can be realistically applied to any number of different situations that occur in life. No matter what the situation is; if there is a chokepoint (a point of congestion or blockage), then the foundation for said situation is compromised, meaning the result/outcome will not meet expectations. Knowing already that I serve as a lacklustre foundation for my own future as well as for those significant to me like friends and family; I am weirdly optimistic that I will not fail to reach my overall expectations when my life draws to a close, given that they are so far below the surface that submarines will bump into the sunken remains of RMS Titanic way before coming into contact with my overall expectations.

With that said however; in the present climate where people readily have near instant access to information and platforms to express themselves; the risk of underperforming or not reaching expectations is as costly as ever before. This is exceptionally true for businesses in a cut-throat environment, which needs a product or service, or promotion to hit the ground running and produce results that meet or preferably exceed expectations. As stated beforehand however, the foundations for said product, service, promotion and so on need to be solid in order to establish something that the growing expectations of consumers want.

An advert aimed to promote a brand of alcohol aired during the 2017 Super Bowl offers a grand platform to establish the alcoholic brand in the minds of the attendees and create interest, but ultimately confuses the intended audience will spark undesirable reactions towards the company that made the advert and produce the product. A motion picture (or film in other words) with a large budget and ‘blockbuster’ advertising, but rushed production and underwhelming reviews won’t yield a profit, nor leave a good impression on audiences. A supermarket running a Valentine’s Day promotion that prioritises on selling associated products such as cards, romantic novels, DVDs, confectionary, flowers, packing, and so on from the 17th of January to the 14th of February, but has a lack of staff working due to an untimely strike will cause a corporate nightmare because without staff working, the distribution for the products is gone, and without the sales from the highlighted products, the sales dry up leaving a costly promotion and many unsold products that have a limited shelf-life which needs to be disposed of in order for the next promotion. A government service announcement regarding updated polices for HM Revenue & Customs is very important as it affects taxpayers and businesses, but if the announcement is only mentioned on radio for three (3) days, then there is a good percentage of businesses and taxpayers that simply won’t know about the announcement because the radio is not a viable platform on its own for announcements.

The hypothetical yet again realistic examples provided above demonstrate how intention is blighted by chokepoints and the lack of attention paid towards establishing a solid foundation to build upon. This means that a foundation is made of many components that need to be efficient in order for the foundation to be solid and to be used to build upon, whether it is a building, a relationship, or a product from a corporate business. Picture if you will a game of Jenga upon a table; one (1) could establish the tower of blocks and play the game with others, but if the table is unstable then the purpose of Jenga is compromised/ruined because the table serving as the foundation isn’t supporting the tower of blocks. If there is a problem within the foundation, i.e. if a relationship is built on a lie, then the established parts, or the relationship is this example is jeopardised and could fall upon itself. That would be disastrous, wouldn’t it? 

Heed thy advice and the wisdom of others if you wish to succeed in life (That means you too Nintendo, with you Switch and archaic ideals!). Ultimately you don’t need to aspire to the wealthiest of wealthy or to be the most famous person to have ever lived, or to solve one (1) of life’s many plights like cancer, or explain how there is no such thing as ‘fair’ in the present day, in order to be successful as long as you feel like you have experienced your quota of satisfaction. Set yourself a solid foundation and build upon it to your heart’s content.

While it should go without saying or be fairly obvious to most, it is VERY important to have a good foundation firmly placed first (1st) before building upon that base regardless of whatever it is that one (1) or more people want to establish/make. At the end of the day; that’s all anyone can do to educate others so that mistakes and problems can be resolved before disaster occurs. Hopefully with this specific matter addressed in a way that can be understood, I shall bring this post to a close before people kick down my door, with flame torches and pitchforks in hand chomping to bits in protest of what I have stated in this post. If there is another post after this one (1), then it means I was successful in evading my pursuers by hiding under the quality assured mattress I picked! Let’s be hopeful shall we. Until next time, see ya!